Codependency in alcoholism, drug addiction. How to get rid of the 12 steps, psychological advice, what it is, how to behave

Codependency in psychology labeled complex psychiatric disorders, occurring in people living with drug addicts or alcoholics. Most often this disease affects the parents and spouses of chemically dependent person, to put it in full immersion in the lives of others, and problems with a complete rejection of their own interests and needs.

For codependency characterized by psychological, physical and moral disorientation, conducting a subsequent mental disorders and serious health problems, activate with the constant stress.

types

codependency alcoholism, Addiction often occurs in relatives of people (relatives) are chemically dependent person, in most cases, living with him in the same area.

The number of co-addicted persons most likely to be:

• parents of minors or adults suffering from alcoholism or drug addiction of children;
• spouse (usually the wife);
• persons associated with no affinity chemically dependent and serious loving relationships (Groom bride);
• brothers and sisters.

Trying at first to adapt to the problem of co-dependent arising from the phasing out of its own interests, goals and activities are aimed at all energy aid is suffering from drug addiction or alcoholism close, trying to constantly monitor its actions in order to prevent a possible, negative Exodus.

Depending on the type of chemical dependency different:

Codependency in alcoholism

Characterized by a mirror reflection of the behavior of the patient's face. Fully immersed in the thought of his wife an alcoholic wife (or husband) completely isolate themselves from the rest of the world, ceasing to take care of their own desires and needs.

Attempts to protect the patient from drinking reborn in constant control. Striving constantly to prevent a loved one alcohol intake codependent quickly loses control his life, the relationship with other relatives (including their young children), the workplace and friends.

To unsubscribe from an addiction in the course embark threats, persuasion, psychological pressure, which further It aggravates the condition of the patient, at the same time causing an ardent protest manifests increased alcohol consumption beverages

If there is no result codependent takes full responsibility for the lives and actions of alcoholics, treating him like a little child.

Codependency when drug

A very common phenomenon, based on a rigid manipulation dependent and constant provocation from loved ones guilt.

This type has three sequential steps of passing close sozavisimosti addict:

"The role of the savior"	It appears when a problem is detected and characterized by attempts to save and close depending on the chemical by means of persuasion and requests. At this stage, codependent even able to give money to an addict, entering his "plight", thus trying to persuade to give up illicit drugs.
"The role of the pursuer"	The second stage, accompanied by strict control with the aim to protect the patient from receiving illicit drug abuse drugs. It manifested in the constant control behavior, surveillance, restriction of freedom, trying to stop all foreign contacts. During this period, more codependent believes Commissar family man, but he was already there, as a result of trying to actively manipulate the family.
"The role of the victim"	Characterized by the development of a strong sense of guilt, to shift to the addict him codependent person. In an attempt to get money for drugs the patient develops a close sense of guilt, blaming them for his addictions, sharply turning from the patient's arm in the "accident, nedolyublennosti child. "

symptoms

Codependency in alcoholism, drug addiction - a dangerous mental disorder that can destroy life and psychological health.

Signs of disease include:

• permanent presence in codependent person thinking about a sick relative;
• aggressive behavior, manifested by a strict control of movements, and actions of contacts dependent;
• loss of control of his emotions;
• self-deception, which is manifested in the rejection of the problem;
• sense of guilt, shame, self charge in the event of foreign dependence;
• increased resistance to internal psychological pain;
• reduced self-esteem and prolonged depression;
• the perception of the patient as a "minor" of the child, followed by a transcription of the responsibility for any act dependent on themselves;
• self-destructive behavior and loss of the ability to think really.

When alcohol codependency wife may start to drink alcohol with her husband, motivating their actions by saying that "it will get less so." This behavior is very dangerous and can lead to the development of alcoholism.

Suffering with addiction codependency so obsessed with guilt, provoked by the patient that often find themselves trying to get illegal drugs, "only that the child was happy," and he did not threaten hazard.

Under the influence of self-destructive behaviors in sozavisimosti formed hatred resistant to the patient, provoking burnout and prolonged depression that could develop into a serious psychiatric deviations.

Causes of

Codependency in alcoholism, drug addiction is often the result of excessive care. Trying to avoid the increased control by the household, dependent future begin to look for an outlet in alcohol. Adolescents with unstable mentality is easy to communicate with poor youth company, the atmosphere in which bears no resemblance to their soul family.

Among the factors that could lead to the development of codependency stand out:

• lack of implementation of the human as an individual, provoking him to look for a way to express themselves in the other person;
• ill-treatment by their parents, formed a human "victim complex";
• increased humility and a strong dependence on public opinion;
• previously transferred psychological trauma caused by violence or unhealthy atmosphere in the home.

As codependency disease has several stages of development:

preoccupation	It takes the form of a periodic patient alertness caused by taking drugs or alcohol. In the first stage for codependency issues is characterized by denial and justification for developing a close person addiction (alcohol intake is associated with the holidays, unexpected encounters, fatigue, poor well-being). There are small lapses of memory and increased resistance to psychic experiences.
self-defense	In codependency a feeling of increased responsibility for the state and actions of the patient. A close relative is usually serves as a pursuer, trying to persuade, threats and pressure to persuade the patient in need of treatment. Memory lapses at this stage sozavisimosti may increase.
Adaptation	The dominance of feelings of shame and guilt, are gradually replaced by anger and irritation. There is a strengthening efforts to control and the formation, under the manipulation of the patient, "the role of victim ', which resulted in codependent constantly blames herself for dependent problems. On stage bequeathed stage there is a feeling of resentment and anger at the patient, accompanied by the destruction of the family.
exhaustion	Resentment, frustration and anger are transformed into a strong hatred for the patient. Exacerbated chronic psychological and physical diseases caused by a permanent stay in a state of stress. At this stage, one should resort to psychological treatment, otherwise the possibility of severe nerve pathologies.
Recovery	Possible only in the case of applying for medical assistance, the results of which completely codependent suspended from life and the problem of addiction, followed by a "healthy" focus on their goals and needs.

Codependency most commonly affects the family, consider themselves responsible for the fate of loved ones, in particular:

• mother and father, trying to take care of all of your child;
• wife (or husband) that control the action of the other spouse;
• brothers or sisters, caring about each other.

According to studies, most often this problem affects people who grew up in a dysfunctional family psychological situation where the parents (or one of them) have suffered an alcohol or drug dependence. This category also includes persons who have lost their parents due to addiction to narcotics (alcoholic beverages).

More women than men suffer from codependency, because of their psychological and emotional structure. Men quickly abstracted from the problem, as a rule, is not moving on the stage of "self-defense".

Psychological diagnostics

Drug addiction or addiction to alcohol or any member of the family in society, in most cases, carefully hiding for fear of condemnation, therefore, to establish a case of codependency is only possible at a fairly late stages.

More often than not, suffer from a psychological disorder refer to a specialist only 4 minutes, accompanied by nervous exhaustion stage.

For diagnosis in the process of discussions with sick doctor tries to find out:

• general psychological condition of the patient;
• established family and kinship relations;
• feelings experienced by the patient relative to the chemical dependencies;
• the presence of a depressive disorder;

Most often, the question of their own state, their hobbies and interests codependent begins to talk about illness of a loved one, while trying to justify the addiction or blame themselves in the development of pathology.

When you need to turn to a psychologist

In the initial stages of the disease, it is possible to do without psychiatric care. Unfortunately, to do so may not all relatives.

If men have a cold mind and rarely go to the stage of "adaptation" that is typical for women to blame themselves disease close (especially a child or spouse) because of the psychological characteristics, sacrifice and high sensitivity.

In this case, it is desirable to seek medical advice before complete exhaustion step that could lead to the development of long depression and nervous or psychiatric problems.

Faced with difficulties in the family associated with the use of close narcotic, psychotropic substances or alcoholic dependent relatives should seek immediate psychological help, if they:

• They blame themselves for illness of a loved one;
• They do not have their own goals in life, and only mechanically perform work and home responsibilities;
• trying to constantly monitor dependence;
• ready to help a friend, even if they did not ask;
• very worried that problems in the family and about the situation surrounding think bad;
• shy enough to be afraid to ask for directions from a passerby.

A positive response by more than 3 question is the reason for referral to a specialist for the purpose of diagnosis and treatment of co-dependence.

methods of disposal

Sozavisimost alcoholism, addiction to be treated, as after recovery former victim chemical dependency should return to normal psychological environment where there is no constant monitoring, suspicion and surveillance.

Codependency therapy should start as early as possible because:

• how-to close did not try to protect people from addiction - this is not possible;
• alcoholism and drug addiction can not be cured - can only be cured by yourself;
• codependency prevents the dependent person to understand their illness and seek help.

Codependency treatment based on modern psychological techniques:

• individual interviews with a psychologist;
• training actions in any stressful situations;
• group and family therapy;
• Learning calm demeanor and decision problems.

Drug treatment is often not applied. The use of drugs is only necessary in the case of joining own sozavisimosti psychiatric disorders. At the stage of "exhaustion" may be administered tranquilizers and antidepressants to help normalize sleep, mood and psychological state of the patient.

In psychiatric hospitals Russia codependency treatment is carried out on an innovative method of Dr. Valentina psychology Novikova, based his therapy on the method of "12 steps", developed by American psychologists and spouses Uaynhold Berry.

12-step program

Under the program, the treatment-dependent and codependent is performed only once, and must be based on the recognition of the fact that:

• alcoholism and drug addiction - this is not the vices and diseases affecting primarily the soul, thus requiring not only medical, but also mental health treatment;
• therapy should be performed not only for patients but also for their families, their pressure, hindering the deal with the problem;
• in the ensuing illness is nothing to be ashamed of, so it does not need to hide from prying.

  

In the process of concurrent therapy drug addicts, alcoholics, and his family learn to:

• realize that their problem can not solve on their own, without the involvement of a specialist psychiatry;
• penetrate into the causes of disease;
• to recognize the signs of personality defects, manifested in daily communication;
• abandon the manner of shifting the blame for their actions on other people;
• stop manipulating the feelings of loved ones, making them accountable for their inappropriate actions;
• abandon the unreasonable accusations against him and remorse;
• ask for help from other people, without regard to the views of society;
• scrutinize your thoughts, feelings, and experiences;
• the ability to express themselves, to search for their own internal needs, desires and strive to meet them;
• way to recover the lost boundaries of communication with others and lost earlier contacts and family ties (with children, parents, friends);

possible complications

Lack of timely treatment can lead to complete destruction of the lives and health of codependent person. Submission of your life interests chemically dependent loved one, followed by negation problems and unjustified guilt is gradually turning into a strong feeling of anger and hatred for patient.

Negative emotions and prolonged stressful situation triggers the development of prolonged depressions accompanying nervous and physical exhaustion, with acute exacerbation of chronic pathologies or development of their own neuropsychiatric disorders.

Codependency in alcoholism and drug addiction - a serious psychiatric disorder that requires a timely and qualified mental health care.

Damages the nervous system and physical health of the disease and can destroy human life itself, forcing him to recant their needs and desires for the sake of fruitless attempts to get the patient to give up alcohol or drugs substances.

Registration of the article: Vladimir the Great

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