Oedipus complex in adult males. What is it features as appears what to do, how to fight, treatment

Contrary to popular belief, the Oedipus complex is not a disease, and though frequent in adult males temporary mental condition that prevents adapt in real life. Most often it manifests itself in nervousness, habits and character traits, making a grown man into a little naughty child.

What is the Oedipus complex

From the perspective of modern psychoanalysis, in contrast to the said King Oedipus, ordinary people for the most part do not kill the parents of the same gender, but feel for him a kind of ambiguous sense of hatred and attachment at a time, was also forced to suffer and doubt your mental gusts.

Jealous and afraid. Strive to be like him and at the same time eliminate the opponent.

At the same time, consciously or unconsciously, to the parent of the opposite sex sexual attraction appears stable, again leading to a variety of mental disorders of adult men and women.

The danger of this disease is clearly seen as a result of its initial deviation from the norm.

If a child this longing for one parent and hatred of others show how the unconscious state of mind, the adults well aware that they felt sexually attracted to his mother or father, and hate again, one of his parents. Which leads to an even greater dissonance and mental torment.

Oedipus complex according to Freud

In building his theory of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud more and more inclined to believe that the Oedipus complex is not based only sexuality in general, but also the whole development of the human mind, mental processes, and neuroses of all available disorders.

According to the theory of the Oedipus complex Freud comprehensively penetrate the consciousness and the human psyche, because almost from birth, every child has an inextricable link with the mother. For three years, when the phase of sexual determination, the Oedipus complex becomes more pronounced.

The child begins to consciously express their feelings to the mother or father. As love and jealousy, hatred, anger, violent emotions flow fall on parents, striking nervousness and sharpness in the behavior of the child. Oedipus complex in adult males is characterized by unusually strong sexually colored craving for his mother and hostile attitude to his father.

Freud believed that the successful development of this complex is sure to become a key factor in determining a person's psychological state. What is considered "successful" or "positive" development of the Oedipus complex? There is a "positive development", there are "negative". Sigmund Freud took it a rule to the presence of a certain axis, which stretches along the plurality of sets of complex traits.

From positive to negative values. From manifesting a pronounced attraction to the parent of the same sex, dual or definitely negative attitude to the parent the opposite sex, to sexual harassment to the parent of the opposite sex and bright hatred for the parent of the opposite floor.

At the same time on the background of experiences on the show feelings in the child gradually develop neurotic disordersAssociated with the fear of punishment, a sense of his worthlessness, inferiority, detect deviations in development.

The founder of psychoanalysis, was of the opinion that the Oedipus complex is the basis of all human development, religious preferences, morals, integrity, the development of art and physiological It is. That is, the signs of the presence of the Oedipus complex are the basis of all aspects of the development of human civilization.

Because of this, every adult male or female affected by the fears and stereotypes, bringing them out of children's attachments and aversions manifestations. Outside the circle of supporters of psychoanalysis fact comprehensive penetration of the Oedipus complex human development is not taken so confidently, because there is no direct evidence of this scientific theory.

Moreover, Freud's theory is very often subject to critical review and reform.

At various times, they expressed their criticisms and amend his theory of professionals such as:

• Carl Jung Gutsav - Swiss psychiatrist and educator, founder of the theory of depth psychology.
• Alfred Adler - Austrian psychoanalyst and philosopher, the founder of individual psychology system.
• Erich Fromm - German scientist, one of the founders of neo-Freudianism.
• Melanie Klein - British psychoanalyst, founder of child psychoanalysis theory.
• Otto Rank - Austrian follower of Freudian theory.
• Karen Horney - US official neo-Freudian psychoanalysis direction.

As well as many other experts in the field of psychology, psychiatry and psychoanalysis.

The difference between women and men

Oedipus complex in adult males deforms its moral values, as well as religious beliefs, because in the process of becoming a person concealing sexual attachment to the mother, the boy finds a steady craving for identification with his father. Thus justifying sexual advances to her own mother.

Based on the classical postulate of psychoanalysis, feeling sexual attraction to his mother, the boys are jealous, or even hate his father.

They perceive the mother's entry into intimacy with his father as a good fact of treason and betrayal. Child, hiding feelings for fear of being punished by his father, more and more hates his father and becomes a special feature set of its super-ego.

For girls, there are two concepts of the Oedipus complex:

• Initially, according to the theory of psychoanalysis, the Oedipus complex in girls is developing another way, less complicated and burdened by various fears. Women's super-ego can remain less developed, leaving the situation with her dissatisfaction and uncertainty as take anything, but contributes to the sustainable growth of the oppressive inferiority complex, exacerbating the sense of its imperfections.
• Later it has been allocated a separate concept of this complex for women - Electra complex, the heroine of the Greek epic, which has found a way to take revenge on the mother for the betrayal and murder of his father.

Based on Freud's theory of love for her father, the girl develops penis envy. Resentment against the mother becomes the main cause of persistent attraction to her father, as a result of a desire to have a child from her father becomes the dominant factor in the behavior and aspirations of girls.

time of onset

Periods of the Oedipus complex:

• Oral - from 0 to 1.5 years, when a child is closely linked to the mother. His mouth - the most basic tool of knowledge of the world and the pleasure. The primary object of enjoyment in this period is the mother's breast. Breastfeeding becomes inevitable and very important ritual, during which the child receives the most positive emotions.
• anal period - this time from 1.5 to 3 years, when a child learns to defecate on their own to give pleasure. Not only from the control of this process, but also on the promotion of the child's surrounding adults. Thus, he begins to realize the importance and the significance of its realization. Self-control and self-awareness becomes a conductor in the world where you can control your body.
• phallic period 3 to 4 - another stage of sexual development of the child. At this time, the person becomes aware of itself individual particular sex. Examining genitals, play with them, comparing with others - it is an integral part of the phallic period of development of the person, which has as its main task the definition of gender.
• Phallic - oedipal period. Just in the first 4-6 years of the boy begins to wish his mother in terms of sexuality and her jealous father. As the representative of the female set of chromosomes, the girl discovers a penis envy holders, after some time, expressing their love only to her father, ignoring his mother.
• latency period - this is the age of 6 to 12 years of age, characterized by a temporary absence, the extinction of sexual desire. All development of the child at this time is aimed at communication, educational process, establishment of a circle, in addition to sexual relations.
• puberty It begins with 12-14 years and painted a bright explosion of sexuality, the release of hormones. At this time, the Oedipus complex is part of the final phase of development. The child enters adolescence, and for those in middle age.

Sigmund Freud assumed that people are born bisexual. At this time, due to the close-sided relationship of the child with his mother, because of the fact that the role of the father in the care of a child is quite insignificant, it passes nonexciting period of development.

Then there are about 2-3 years the first manifestations of certain sexual preferences. Further, this process reaches peak values. In the period from 3 to 5 years there is sexual self-awareness as a sexual object. Then some manifestations Oedipus pass into stage flush braked flow until puberty in 12-14 years.

In childhood, the child is only trying to push apart the parents, if they are with him hug or kiss, more than trying to stay close to the parent of the opposite sex. Boy, struggling to be like my father, he offers to help my mother does not let her on a step, trying to control her space, reserving the right to be with her.

Girl tries to take care of his father, waiting for his return from work, it brings to its approval his first drawings or whispers in his ear her secrets. In adolescence development, burdened surge of hormones and conflicting feelings, Oedipus complex will cause permanent hysterics, squabbles with the parent of the same sex.

Disobedience could escalate into open conflict current rapidly. The teenager will respond impartially for aging parents, and mocked him, to fall in with an angry accusatory speeches, mercilessly ridiculing its shortcomings. Thus, wishing to emphasize its viability, attractiveness and competitiveness in the eyes of the opposite sex parent.

Causes of men and boys

• Gipervnimanie, spoiled, improper display of tenderness, affection too active in the genital area, causing a reciprocal sexual response.
• A significant lack of attention, merciless punishment, oppressive attitude to the boy with the parents in the first years of life.
• Painful stress, depressing atmosphere, purposeful actions of parents, contributing to the suppression of their own motives boy or maturing males.
• The birth of another child, the appearance of a new object of increased attention of parents and the child's surrounding people.
• Quarrels, conflicts between parents, growing into an appeal for approval or for the protection of the child.
• Divorce, death of a parent, and thereby raise the boy only his mother. Parent family can be a very negative experience in the development of the individual by virtue of its original inferiority. Adult male, without receiving a positive example of family life in the future based only on their own skills, based on life in the single-parent family.

As parents provoke the development of complex

In varying degrees, all children go through tests Oedipus complex. It is very important especially in the teenage years to focus on the mental state of the child. It is the parents can and should do the basic steps to identify and overcome the negative aspects of the development of the boy.

Punishing or encouraging the child, the parents cause him growing desire to be like a father to deserve even more attention, praise, support the mother. It would be counterproductive to go on the road only punishments and rewards. Manifestation of coherence, focus and patience in bringing up the boy - that can help to overcome any difficult situations.

Pricked or ignoring the child's attempts to assert their rights to his mother, when he presents himself in the best light, trying to humiliate his father, it is impossible to achieve the correct behavior of the child.

It is necessary to persistently and patiently explain to him that the competition between father and son is not possible. Each time, stepping in front of her son trying to assert themselves, parents indulge his Oedipus complex, triggering mechanism of development deviations, distorting the psyche of the growing man.

What is the risk

Conventional morals contribute to the fact that the human mind is kept within clearly defined borders. Any deviation in psychological development is the transition of the boundaries of morality. The Oedipus complex is one of the clearest examples of this deviation from the norm. Its danger lies in the total penetration into the consciousness, and most importantly - in the human subconscious.

Most of its manifestations is precisely in the area of ​​the subconscious mind. Oedipus complex in adult men, as in women, may result in a constant search for a partner, in the case of mental disorders develop in a positive direction.

These people are not able to accept love, nor can love above all - yourself. Their whole world narrows to the suffering of unrequited love.

Oedipus complex can lead to undesirable deviations in the development of his sexuality as homosexual, lesbian symptoms, susceptibility to transvestism, bisexuality, an orientation related to sexual relations - incest if he is predisposed to seek negative mark on its axis development.

There is another danger of the Oedipus complex - ambivalence. As a manifestation of the duality of actions and emotions to one of the parents, and in the future, to one and the same event, a phenomenon, a man the world.

In the early stages it is manifested in the inability to formulate their own opinions, constantly yielding to fashion trends and conventional wisdom, and to a greater extent, the opinion of one of the parents.

In the future, this attitude can lead to severe nervous and mental disorders. Adult male suffering from the Oedipus complex, is entirely dependent on what is said or thought, Mom. He can not commit any act of self-weighted, is simply not capable of normal activities that require taking responsibility.

Signs of the complex in adulthood

• Oedipus complex in adult men is reflected in the inability to abandon the mother custody. Even finding a new family, a man can not break away from his mother's skirt.
• Its quite satisfied that my mother still cares for him.
• If you manage to marry him, marry, he often prefers a woman older than himself. Like her mother, if not outwardly, the main character traits.
• Marrying such a man will do anything to prevent the birth of children.
• If the family is still the child is born, these men will be jealous of his wife to the child.
• this man's wife will always be subject to comparison with my mother, and my mother will always keep track of how and what is done to her son.
• Externally, adult, strong, attractive, sexy man behaves more like a small child. With childish insults and attempts to someone to prove something. Most often, this results in the fight against windmills, but requiring the promotion, both heroic act.
• The most dangerous outcome of the case - incest. In exceptional cases, the act of sexual intercourse happens between mother and son. Adult son and turned into a man, it is aware of the immorality of his behavior, satisfied feeling of victory, received the most lust and forbidden, and is ranked as it seems rightful place next to a woman he is madly in love practically all a life. In this situation, first of all, suffering mother, jumping up in the abyss of moral problems and remorse comes to a standstill confrontation between their own feelings and mental self-flagellation.

Sometimes analysts can advise when the situation has reached incest, mother suffering from nervous shock to find a man or even create a new marriage, believing that the appearance of another man in the house will contribute to the cooling of passions son towards his mother.

It's hard to say what data are guided by experts, but in real life this situation could lead to even greater suffering. Son did not give up his place next to his mother. Even if it will take a marriage.

And even if a man, or the father, if incest occurred in a complete family will have intimate relations with a woman's son will still find ways to be alone with his mother. Blackmail, reproaches, ultimatums or threats of suicide, he will force her to have sex. Son is sure to be looking for ways to get rid of the opponent, samoutverzhdayas next to his mother.

Female thus is in a dependent position. The output can be only one: to go to the doctor. Otherwise, deadlock situation will result in serious nervous disorders, depressions, in particularly difficult cases, suicide attempts.

How to get rid of the Oedipus complex

Most of the problems associated with the development of the Oedipus complex, can and should be addressed in childhood. Seeing only the first signs of emotional outbursts, parents can gently and persistently affect the situation.

First of all, you must be a friend to your child. If at least one of the parents can confidentially talk with your child - it may have become the foundation based on which to build all the work with a growing man.

Man feels lonely at any age. And at any age, it is important to be close to a man capable of listening, without invading personal space, an adequate response to the important and difficult without the recognition and revelation.

Getting enough attention and care in order not to feel useless and abandoned, it is necessary for everyone. That parents should establish an emotional climate in the family, in which each member of the family feels it necessary and equal partner in the relationship.

An important part in human life plays a communication in the family, with peers, with older age people. At school, at work, with friends and associates, as well as competitors and opponents, a person must have the skills and experience in any situation.

The lack of such an important component, as the search and decision-making experience is not strong in body chain stress response, leading to isolation and self-doubt. Adult like a child, will seek protection under the mother's or Dad's wing.

This seemingly innocent circumstances, accumulating, deprives a person a chance to get out of this situation on their own. According to Freud's theory of the Oedipus complex is a widespread but temporary change in a person's mental status. The danger is minimal manifestation of its sustainable and is possible only when aggravating circumstances.

Treatment

Cabinet psychoanalyst doctor or therapist - this is the right place to look for methods of treatment. But most importantly, himself the owner of a set of manifestations of this state of mind, should by all means try to get out of this state.

Treatment is fixed stress and neurotic Oedipus complex - is a long and complicated process. The emotional bond between the strongest, and its rupture is not possible children and parents. And the pursuit of this purpose is not possible even with the use of drugs. Positive dynamics will not.

In the treatment of the Oedipus complex in children can be useful vivid example of the right of family relations, the presence of a number of healthy, independent, intelligent man. When there is no clear direction of positive behaviors, role models can become not only a father but also a coach or a teacher, an older brother or a friend, favorite actor or athlete.

For adult males treatment of the Oedipus complex turns serious continuous struggle with his super-ego. In this case, it is not easy to bring the super-ego from the depths of the subconscious, to subdue the instincts to total and comprehensive control. But as a result of this fight with the mother will not be a notorious naughty child and an adult, adequate, reliable man.

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